Okay so I’m going to jump straight into this column by asking you an important question: ‘Are you a good decision maker?’ Now, I know this might sound a bit weird for a Thursday morning, but I feel like we have so many decisions to make every day of our lives, sometimes it can be challenging to even decide what to eat. Is it that we have so many choices or have we just become indecisive?


Press pause before you answer.
 
The fact that you are reading this column either from the newspaper in your hand or online from the laptop in front of you suggests to me that you have been gifted with the luxury of choice. 


Choice is a powerful thing. Everything boils downs to choice. We make so many decisions everyday, not really realising what huge impacts they have in the trajectory of our lives. Shall I hang out with so and so? Do I eat that for breakfast? Should I call and apologise? Everyday we live in a field of infinite possibilities. Each choice we make can either shut doors or open them. At any point in time we can change the whole course of our lives with one simple (or so we think) decision. Its all in our hearts, our hands our minds.
A power that is so huge. The power of the choices we make have infinite consequences from the little and insignificant ones to the big ones. The choices that matter when it comes to health, healing, well-being. 
Terror paralyses us with the thought of making certain choices, so we postpone making them. Sometimes even choosing what restaurant to go to has become such a task, scared of being held responsible for the consequences. A choice I have decided not to compromise on is the one to take risks. The choice to always take risks stems from not wanting to end up having regrets about my life. I don’t want to get to a certain stage of life and review the life that I didn’t live. Fear stops us from taking risk; we ask ourselves; what if this doesn’t work out? What if they laugh? What if I lose my money? Ok what if? Worst-case scenario you will be ok. How many of our worst fears have ever actually happened?
I have come to learn that when it comes to making decisions about the future, it serves me to look in front and not back. Don’t look to what’s in the past to chart new waters. You are not that same person. When making a decision ask yourself....What makes you feel alive? Get curious. If you don’t know what you want do, do anything that will get you out there. What you have always been afraid to do. Use your imagination.
See, I am a coach, coaches don’t give you all the right answers, I just ask challenging questions and the question is… where do you want to end up? Once you know where you want to end up, and you map your vision, it is easy to deconstruct backwards. The next time you are faced with a decision I challenge you to dig deep. 


* The author is a consultant and coach. Instagram handle: @miss_shefa,  Website: missshefa.com